Tuesday 20 November 2012

Something else to consider : the thoughts of Harold Searles about the symbiosis between the cared for and the carer.


The American psychoanalyst, Harold Searles, is something of a free spirit in his field and one of his many contributions to those in the helping professions is his idea that there is a symbiosis or mutual dependency in the relationship between those being looked after and those who do the looking after. Just one of the number of aspects he provides of this phenomenon is how puzzling and threatening it can sometimes be for those of us who as a vocation look after children to find that those we 'look after" are so accurate in their assessments of our insecurities and anxieties. What is more, they frequently take some pleasure in our discomfort and particularly so when we try to hide how irritating we find this to be. In pointing out this phenomenon, Searles seems to imply that our work cannot be defined by simplistic algebraic equations. It is often messy and confused and we must keep our whole reflective selves in play at all times to deal with this and so to help make some sense of it.

To learn more about Harold Searles and many other things  read Robert M Young at Human Nature

This opinion piece first appeared on the home page of  the goodenoughcaring website where there are many other articles, essays, papers, reviews, poems and essays to be found.

Sunday 18 November 2012

Reprise : A step towards a civilised society - parents should have the right to vote even if they are prisoners


In a week when the United Kingdom's parliament will be considering whether to allow prisoners the right to vote, we make no apology for returning this item to a prominent position on our home page. While thinking of this readers who did not see last week's screening of Michael Winterbottom's film, Everyday: the art of growing up in real time about the the experiences of a family when the father is sentenced to a long period in prison, may still do so  on the Channel 4 iplayer.


Reprise :  A step towards a civilised society - parents should have the right to vote even if they are prisoners

On May 22nd, 2012, the European Court of Human Rights made a ruling that prisoners in the United Kingdom should have the right to vote in local and general elections. It has given the United Kingdom government 6 months in which to implement the ruling. The court's judgment does allow government ministers to determine which categories of prisoners should be disenfranchised.
Setting aside any feelings there may be about international courts influencing legislation in the United Kingdom, the judgment in our view is one for the good. This website is concerned with the nurturing and parenting of children. Many prisoners are Mums and Dads and continue to care about their children even when they are incarcerated and many prisoners who are parents try very hard, in difficult cicumstances, to keep in touch with their children through correspondence, prison visits and through a number excellent initiatives like for instance, Storybook Dads.
Prisoners who are parents should retain the right to vote, not only as part of their preparation for rehabilitation to the world outside of prison but also so that they are encouraged to sustain their interest in, and their attachment to, their children through the ballot box. They should be allowed to vote for political representatives who they believe will support new legislation which relates to the lives of their children and their partners living outside the prison walls.
It should go without saying that we sympathise with and support those who have been the victims of a prisoner's crime, including their relatives and friends. A prison sentence can never make the crime that has been committed any less wrong, but it is the method we use as a community - rightly or wrongly - to punish prisoners for certain crimes. They are required to give up periods of their lives in order to make recompense for their crimes. Convicted criminals are taken away from our community and lose their freedom. For the majority of their living hours they are locked up in a cell. They lose the right to see their loved ones except on rare, supervised and time limited occasions. Surely this is punishment enough and prison sentences, if they are to be in the least effective must be proactively rehabilitative. While there may be exceptional instances which would not make it possible or safe, prisoners should feel when they leave prison that they will be accepted back in their home communities and that they will be supported to the extent that they feel they a stand a fair chance of a loving and purposeful future with their children and partners.
It is a sad state of affairs that many of our political leaders, including the United Kingdom prime minister are so set against the European court's judgement. The enfranchisement of prisoners is a symbol of an inclusive community determined to ensure that those who are punished by having their freedom taken away should not feel utterly abandoned but can trust they still have a worth for their families and for our community. Giving prisoners a vote is a step towards achieving a civilised society.

This item first appeared on the home page of goodenoughcaring.com